How I Became An Online Dating Coach

Ah, online dating. Some people love it. Some people hate it. I'm in the former category, and I always tell skeptics, if you meet the love of your life online, you won't care how the heck you met — you'll just be thrilled that you did!
My name is Erika, and I live in Washington, D.C. I always knew that the man of my dreams was out there, but sometimes you just need a little nudge to find him. So, I decided to join JDate. I had dabbled in the past, but this time, I was really going for it. I perfected my profile and e-mails to a point that my "hit rate," or percentage of guys who responded to my initial e-mail was over 60%, almost unheard of in the online dating world. YourTango Experts Presents ... Online Dating Bootcamp! EXPERT

I found it fun to test which e-mails worked, switch my pictures occasionally to see which drove more traffic to my profile, and even signed my e-mails differently every time. Basically, I learned what worked in my own personal experiment. And then, finally, after over 120 dates, on December 4th, 2009, I did it. I walked into the bar and met Jeremy — my last JDate.
Jeremy and I always joke about the fact that I went on so many dates, yet I was only his fourth JDate ever. I was of the philosophy that you never know if you'll click with someone until you meet in person, so I erred on the side of meeting more people, which I still believe is the best way to do it.
Before I founded A Little Nudge, where I help people with all aspects of online dating, I was an economist for over seven years. While I liked my job for a while, by the last year and a half, I was itching to leave. I didn't even realize it was that long, but Jeremy reminded me that very early on in our relationship, he had asked me how my work day went, and I actually got angry with him. Over the next year, I would get frustrated every time Jeremy asked how my day went, which is, of course, not normal. And if you know me at all, you know that I'm happy 99.872% of the time. Top 10 Tips For Designing Your Online Dating Profile EXPERT
I had considered different options for a career change, but when it came down to it, I always went back to online dating. It was simple — I loved what online dating could do for people, and my love of it made me want to help others with the process. Friends were already coming to me to ask for help with their pictures, profile, and e-mails. This was my calling. One fateful night at a Thai restaurant in Georgetown, as I was lamenting about life in a cubicle, Jeremy said, "Why don't you just quit your job and start the dating business? That's what will make you happy." And the rest is history.

RealRussianMatch.com Announces Very First of Their Guide to Online Dating

RealRussianMatch.com has certainly fairly recently declared the launch of their new website ranking as well as examining the very best courting internet sites. They have certainly made it their aims find just what they believe are the flat out leading dating sites offered online today.

RealRussianMatch.com has actually declared the very first of a brand-new website for uncovering the greatest dating websites readily available today. The major objective and aim of the RealRussianMatch.com website is to provide info regarding internet dating web sites in a non-biased manner. The designers of the RealRussianMatch.com site stated, "We grant our website visitors certain information pertaining to each internet site, saving them the difficulty of searching out as well as registering a variety of internet sites simply to get fundamental info. Our info can easily aid individuals to make decisions relating to which site is to be considered the best, as well as people, who are so glad to make this easy to do!"

The list of the best dating web sites on the Internet is located on the front website of the recently launched an internet site in the 5 Greatest Courting Websites listing. This listing was made after an exhaustive exam for all of the very best dating sites on the Internet today, and also according to the RealRussianMatch.com site owners, the on the internet dating sites that attain a spot on the listing of the best five, have to acquire that honour. The list is frequently re-evaluated and also in the occasion that new sites warrant incorporation to their recommended courting sites listing; those internet sites are going to be added to the list.

Each of the courting websites that are consisted of in the best five listing as well as in the courting website assessments section is reviewed in detail, taking into account all of the variables that have certainly been verified to be the most essential ones in deciding on courting internet sites. The reviews for each courting website incorporate an examination of the registration costs, the associating area of the internet website, same with a review of the interface examining method for the site.

One more attribute of the brand-new RealRussianMatch.com is the Online Adult dating Manual which features ideas on online dating safety as well as several many other subjects featuring debut notions, the courtesy of internet dating, precisely how to select a courting internet site, points for being a triumph at internet dating, recuperating from a break up, and also a comparison of online and also offline dating.

The proprietors of RealRussianMatch.com state that they prefer site website visitors to be conscious that they are placing a massive focus on security with online courting internet sites. The websites that are advised on this website are ones which have higher degrees of security, and also the websites which maintain all individual information under individual authority at all times. For instance, the website is going to endorse internet sites that permit their individuals to make the selection regarding exactly what info is distributed with possible matches.

Additional themes that are covered on the internet site incorporate those such as how to create the very initial message to a person one is interested in, just how to make a decision to which of the matches are the most proper, and precisely how to handle talks and instant messaging by having others on internet courting sites.


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Three niche dating sites for targeted romance

Sometimes you don't really want to wade through suite after suite of suitors to find a good match, our Netiquette columnists say.

STORY HIGHLIGHTS

• Here are three niche sites for those who want to narrow the vast online-dating pool
• Single Fit People is a dating site specifically for those who love to work out
• Tastebuds.fm allows you to easily port over your musical interests
• For about $15 a pop, Tawkify matches potential soulmates based on their Klout scores

(CNN) -- Ah, springtime! When a young single person's fancy turns to quiet desperation. The darling buds of April have shaken off their veils of snow, and you, dear reader, have done likewise with your veils of fleece and SAD-induced despair.

Months of picnics, outdoor shows and wine-sodden nights in summertime finery (or, at the very least, jean shorts and well-worn wife beaters -- however it is you roll) stretch out before you. Now all you need is someone to share them with, right?

Might we suggest spending those last few weeks of mixed-bag weather doing what any red-blooded human does when they're looking for answers: Stay inside and troll the Web.

"I've tried looking online for love!" you may cry -- quite literally. "OkCupid was too arty (and unemployed) for my tastes, Match.com was replete with pleats and Wall Streets! And Craigslist, well... I need a shower. In bleach."

We get it. Sometimes you don't really want to wade through suite after suite of suitors to find the perfect co-picnicker -- I mean, we live in a society where we want everything from our coffee to our movies to be instant.

So why not narrow down the search a bit via a superspecific online dating site?

Seriously, guys, there's someone out there for everyone, and apparently some enterprising developers (just the folks you should trust for love advice) have gone and cataloged them all. Read on for three extremely calculating sites for satiating that aforementioned quiet desperation.

(NB: Shared interests don't always equate to true love -- we know this. Mostly we just find these sites amusing.)

If you like to sweat on a date (in a nonsexy way) ...

From the running track to the weight room to the yoga studio you roam, counting the multiplying packs of your abs, marinating in your own sweat and hoping against hope that that dude -- the one who always parks his yoga mat unnecessarily close to yours, making for optimal ass-viewing -- will ask you to go for a smoothie after the last "Ommmm."

Usually you're so bold -- you with your hot pink spandex and ability to bench-press your twin bed. But in his presence, all you can do to contain your ardor is assume a child's pose and weep salty, sweat-mingled tears.

Well, muscle-bound dear, dry your eyes (and perhaps take a shower, too). There's a dating site out there specifically designed for you: Single Fit People.

This free (for the time being) Boston-based matchmaking machine allows folks who like to work out to find other folks who like to work out to ... you know, work out/make out with. The site even organizes events where singles can mingle and run around and stuff.

Yup, on this site, a red face is more likely to connote the blush of love, rather than an abrupt cessation of physical exertion.

If 'our song' is likely to be super obscure ...

In recent years, you have taken to going to shows alone, parking yourself in the corner with a brimming glass of whiskey and a brimming heart -- and no one to share them with. Yes, in the past, suitors have attempted to share your love -- nay, indefatigable PASSION -- for music.

But many, obviously intimidated by your vast breadth of knowledge, have left mix tapes half composed (Dashboard Confessional? Seriously?), attempted to talk to you while your third-favorite Seapunk band took the stage, and -- perhaps most unsettlingly -- just put their iPods on shuffle while y'all were making out.

Luckily for you, there's a free resource on the market that will help you avoid anyone out there who "likes everything but rap and country": Tastebuds.fm.

The site allows you to easily port over your musical interests from Facebook or Last.fm so as to weed out anyone not familiar with that most important holiday in the world, Record Store Day.

The site even has a feature whereby you can search for events in your area and people to attend them with, so perhaps you can share that whiskey (and heart) with someone special, or at least sort of special, next time around.

You're a social media 'ninja' ...

You have SO MANY FRIENDS. Seriously, like 10,000 Twitter followers, a million stalkers on Foursquare, and Facebook -- well, let's just say you had to create a Fan Page for yourself after you hit the friend limit. If a potential date wants to get on your radar, they'll have to send you a tweet.

You're just so superbusy at-replying, posting interesting articles to your friends' walls and checking into the bodega around the corner each night when you pick up your frozen pizza for one (gotta maintain that Mayorship!).

Still, sometimes -- amidst the pings, love-red notifications and badges -- you feel a deep, dark force sucking at your heart. An emptiness even Instagram for Android failed to fill.

Somewhere out there, however, there's another soul aching and tweeting and pinging right along with you, and a little site called Tawkify aims to act as your guide through the morass of online social interactions.

For about $15 a pop, Tawkify matches up potential soulmates based on their Klout scores (a service that measures your social influence online) as well as other factors, and sets up phone dates so they can get to know each other the only way they know how -- from the comfort of their own cave-like homes.

Seniors searching for love turning to online dating

Trying to date at any age can be daunting and disheartening, but it could be even more difficult for folks over 55.

AARP released data from a member's survey that showed the top three complaints of singles in their 50s.
For men, the top complaints were partners with a lot of baggage, women being too difficult to get along with and women who want to get too serious too fast.
Women had similar complaints when it came to dating men. Their top three complaints were partners with a lot of baggage, not a clue where to find available men and men who want to get too serious too fast
In the love search, it appears singles who are over 55 are looking for love online by the thousands. In fact, recent numbers from Nielsen researchers show computer users in this demographic accounted for 16.7 percent of all traffic to online personal sites.
Another study showed the 50 and over demographic is the fastest growing group of subscribers for online dating.
Bonnie Wills, a Valley matchmaker, said for those in that age group who feel comfortable seeking love online, go for it.
Wills said it's tough to find a suitable partner, so don't stick to just searching online. She suggested finding pastimes and hobbies.
"Live your own life," she said. "When you do that, chances are you'll attract someone who shares the same interests.

The website matching rich men who want to take 'attractive' women on free vacations... but is it safe?

A new dating website has launched which aims to pair rich men who don't like to travel alone, with attractive women who want a free vacation.
In what vaguely resembles an escort agency, although the site claims otherwise, MissTravel.com guarantees a mutually beneficial arrangement as 'the only online dating website for travelers'.
Similar to Sugar Daddy dating websites with a globetrotting theme, the Generous travelling member is expected to pay all travel expenses for Attractive' travelling members'.

Online-dating: A new website has launched which aims to pair rich men who don't like to travel alone, with attractive women who want a free vacation

'Attractive travellers' can either accepting a 'generous traveller's' proposal to visit his or her home town, or go on a trip together.

MissTravel.com also offers 'benefits' as a way to entice women to the site, providing a points based incentive system.

 

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The site explains: 'Generous members have the ability to gift frequent flyer points to Attractive members (hence gifting them the gift of travel).
It continues: 'Attractive members who accumulate enough frequent flyer points may redeem them for free airline tickets and hotel rooms, allowing them the opportunity to travel the world for free.'

Online-dating: The site matches 'Generous travelers who hate to travel alone with Attractive travelers who would love the opportunity to travel the world for free'

A writer at Jezebel signed up as an Attractive Female to see what the site was really like, and concluded that: 'It's pretty much exactly like a regular dating site'
They wrote: 'There are chiseled orange heirs on yachts who are probably liars, bewigged white executives looking for "black or mixed females only," faux-poetic blowhards spouting bullshit they think makes them sound sensitive ("You have been accused of having too much heart but you know in your soul this is the only way to be"), really really sad and lonely people who are painful to look at, and a [lot of] of gross married dudes.
Jezebel points out that while lonely people have the right to buy company if they so choose, and women are equally allowed to make their own 'possibly bad' choices, this particular site has the ability to facilitate a large amount of coercion.

Safety first: There is an obvious power imbalance swaying in favour of the Generous traveller, leading to possible coercion on the site

One could argue that it is mutually-beneficial, reasoning that the women are using and objectifying the men as much as the men are using and objectifying the women.
However there is an obvious power imbalance, swaying in favour of the 'generous traveller'.
As Jezebel points out: 'You're not just on a date with this person - this rich, powerful stranger - you're on a boat, you're in a hotel room, you're in fu**ing Thailand or some sh*t.'
The site also disclaims it does not do its own background checks on its members.
Which is a potentially scary position to be in for a girl who finds herself 5,000 miles away from home with a stranger, only to realise she doesn't want to 'put out'.

MissTravel: New Online Dating Site Pairs Beautiful Women With Wealthy Men For Travel

Misstravel Who needs money? Beautiful people travel free. No, Samantha Brick has not written another Daily Mail article on the perks (and pitfalls) of being so attractive. Instead, that's the motto of MissTravel, a new dating website that pairs wealthy, worldly men with beautiful women who want to explore exciting destinations but lack the means. The site breaks members down into two groups: those who are "attractive" and those who are "generous" (there is no third category for women who are good-looking and wealthy, so if you're both, you may be out of luck). The raspy voice behind the promotional video promises women they can stay at five-star resorts, experience fine dining and 'do the fun things travelers do' all for free. The only requirement to make you eligible to find a "travel buddy" is that you be attractive (accounts are subject to approval following photo evaluations). As for who's footing the bill for these trips, the site says they have thousands of doctors, lawyers, bankers, athletes, executives, entrepreneurs and profession-uncategorized millionaires. MissTravel also features an incentive system whereby generous members can gift the attractive members frequent flyer points that they can redeem for airline tickets and hotel rooms. So despite the fact that the site purports itself as just another online dating service looking to help singles find love, as Jezebel points out, the reward they advertise for a woman who travels with rich men enough is eventually getting to travel on her own. "It's like one of those sugar daddy websites, only with a jaunty globetrotting theme," Lindy West, author of the Jezebel post wrote. "It's the Explorers Club meets Ashley Madison. (Do you like your Sherpa guide, but just wish he had bigger boobs and less interest in you as a person?)" It's easy to see how one might start making comparisons to sites like Seeking Arrangements, which matches young women (some of whom are looking to pay for college) with older men willing to provide them a comfortable lifestyle in exchange for companionship, a potentially vague notion. It gets even easier to make such comparisons when reading MissTravel's about our founder section which confirms that the man behind it and the man behind Seeking Arrangements, Seeking Millionaires and What's Your Price -- all sites accused of sounding a lot like legalized prostitution -- are one in the same. Even the sites' users have admitted the lines can get a bit blurry at times: in 2009, one Seeking Arrangements user told the New York Times that with her sugar daddy, “I don’t feel like a prostitute, though maybe I am." Lest anyone get the wrong idea about what traveling with a generous companion might imply or entail for the women, MissTravel attempts to preempt concerns about impropriety with a no-smoking'esque we-don't-welcome-escorts sign. "Our members expect to find genuine profiles, with genuine opportunities to fall in love and enter into a relationship," the disclaimer reads. "We understand that every member has a different motivation for joining this site, but we do not support any members who are registering as escorts. This is not an escort site, nor will we permit any type of escorting on this site. MissTravel.com is strictly an online dating service for people who are looking for a travel partner." Still, the site is self-aware enough to warn users that despite its goal of helping travel enthusiasts find love, by nature, what it's proposing could end up being not so safe: one of their instructional steps is to "Use common sense."

Online Dating Websites Announces Debut of their Guide to Online Dating

OnlineDatingWebsites.net has announced the debut of a new site for finding the best dating websites available today. The primary purpose and goal of the OnlineDatingWebsites.net site is to offer information about online dating websites in a non-biased manner. The creators of the OnlineDatingWebsites.net site said, "We give our site visitors specific details about each site, saving them the trouble of searching out and joining a multitude of sites just to get basic information. Our information can help people to make decisions about which site is the right one for them to consider joining, and we are so glad to make this easy to do!"

The list of the best dating websites on the Internet is found on the front page of the newly launched site in the "5 Best Dating Websites" list. This list was compiled after an exhaustive evaluation for all of the best dating websites on the Internet today, and according to the OnlineDatingWebsites.net site owners, the online dating websites that earn a spot on the list of the top five, have to truly earn that honor. The list is regularly re-evaluated and in the event that new sites warrant inclusion to their best dating websites list, those sites will be added to the list.

Each of the dating websites that is included in the top five list and in the dating website reviews section is reviewed in detail, taking into consideration all of the factors that have been proven to be the most important ones in selecting dating websites. The reviews for each dating website include an examination of the membership prices, the member area of the site, and a review of the compatibility testing process for the site.

Another feature of the new OnlineDatingWebsites.net is the "Online Dating Guide," which features tips on online dating safety as well as various other topics including first date ideas, the etiquette of online dating, how to select a dating website, tips for being a success at online dating, recovering from a break up, and a comparison of online and offline dating.

The owners of OnlineDatingWebsites.net say that they want site visitors to be aware that they are placing a heavy focus on safety with online dating sites. The websites that are recommended on this site are ones which have high levels of security, and the sites which keep all personal information under user control at all times. For example, the site will only recommend sites that allow their users to make the decision about exactly what information is shared with potential matches.

Other topics that are covered on the site include those such as how to write your very first message to a person you are interested in, how to decide which of your matches are the most appropriate for you, and how to handle conversations and instant messaging with others on online dating websites.

Single adults over 50 turning to online dating

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UNDATED (CNN) -- Can people in their 50's find real love on line? The thought is daunting for some baby boomers.
Suzanne Forman is on a blind date, with Todd Grodnick, who she's only met on the phone. Like many unmarried baby boomers, Forman considers companionship more important in her 50s. Forman says, "I mean I can't believe I'm 55. I feel like I'm still 20 or 30 something. I still have that energy. I still have you know that spark that uhm but I do have a lot of candles on my cake."
Introductions through friends and relatives haven't worked. Forman says, "They kept trying to set me up with friends of theirs and each one was just worst than the next. I was a vegetarian and one of the guys they set me up with took me to a Morroccan restaurant and ate raw meat in front of me."
So Forman, and a growing number of singles over 50, are going online find potential matches. Staci Dansey is a 61-year-old real estate agent. She says, "I can't imagine spending the rest of my life alone."
After her marriage ended, Dancy's daughter-in-law made a suggestion. Dansey says, "She said, oh you've got to get on one of those on-line dating sites. And I said I don't think so."
Then her daughter told her about OurTime.com, a dating site for those over 50. Dansey says, "There has been a perfect storm of with a growing number of baby boomers who are single, with a growing number of baby boomers using the internet, and discovering that it's a way to be connected."
Dr. Gail SAltz with OurTime.com says, "It's just a numbers game. The more people I meet the greater the odds that I will meet a guy who wants to have a loving warm committed serious monogamous relationship."
A 2010 eHarmony survey found the Internet is now the most popular way for people over 50 to meet and marry. Gia Gonzaga with eHarmony says, "I've always thought the idea that the older generation is afraid of technology is overblown, because they now seem to adopt it, and adopt it in numbers just as much as everybody else does."
Widow Vange LeClarc and divorce Rob Foss met online in 2008. Foss says, "I had been married so long I'd kind of forgotten the process, so I was like a duck out of water."
Both liked the idea of viewing and reading about potential dates before agreeing to meet. LeClare says, "I think it's less intimidating than going out there and meeting someone at a, ya know, bar."
Dating after 50 is different. Foss says, "We each have assets now. When I was in my 20s, I owned a stereo and a used car."
But the results can be the same. Foss and LeClarc are planning a Hawaiian wedding next year.

Is Online Dating Really Worthwhile?

Find out if online dating is really worth all the hard work and headaches.

... featuring an interview with YourTango Expert Joe Amoia.

Welcome to YourTango Experts' Online Dating Bootcamp: Day 2! Today is all about getting to the bottom of the burning question: is online dating really worth all the hard work and headaches it can cause? Our editorial team sat down with YourTango Expert Joe Amoia to find out. (Wanna brush up on Bootcamp Day 1? Start here.)
With thousands of single guys and sites to choose from, the thought of online dating can be pretty daunting. However, if you've reached the conclusion that online dating is more stressful than it's worth, think again. In the interview below, YourTango Expert Joe Amoia discusses the many perils of online dating. As it turns out, it isn't so scary after all ... and it's certainly nothing to be ashamed of. Why Your Online Dating Profile Doesn't Work EXPERT
YourTango: Hi, Joe. Let's dive right in. What's the most common complaint women have about online dating?

Joe: Women are discouraged. A lot of them have tried it, had bad experiences, and adopted a been-there, done-that attitude. They're convinced that if it didn't work the first time, it never will.
YourTango: Interesting. Do men feel the same way?
Joe: Well, first you have to differentiate between the men and the boys. The boys are the ones who are out there just looking to prey on women, and they aren't frustrated or discouraged at all because they're taking advantage of women who are vulnerable. The men, on the other hand, are just as frustrated as the women. They ask, "Why can't I meet a good woman? I know they're out there."
The trick for both men and women is to understand how to play this game. Unfortunately, a lot of people waste their time looking for Mr. or Mrs. Perfect. Then, as soon as someone better comes along, they lose interest. Then what happens is that they miss out on great opportunities that are right in front of them. YourTango Experts Presents ... Online Dating Bootcamp! EXPERT
YourTango: Wow, that's interesting. So, here's an important question: how can women distinguish the men from the boys?
Joe: The biggest thing is for women to get clear on what exactly they are looking for. You know, what's the type of guy they want? Once you're clear on that, it makes it easy to identify if the guy you're talking with is even that type of guy. Very often in this online dating world, they're looking for someone just because he's a guy. Okay, well he's a guy, but whether you are really good for each other is a whole other question.
YourTango: So, your advice is for women go into online dating with a clear understanding of what they want?
Joe: Yes. I call it starting with the end in mind. What end results are you trying to get? Are you trying to find a guy who will willfully walk you down the aisle? Are you just here to have some fun and need the guy to bring you to a concert because you have nobody else? Are you here to just date a lot? Really, what's your purpose? What are you here for?
YourTango: Okay, so for those of us who have tried online dating and can't help but feel a little bit like it's a last resort, like, "I'm not meeting guys any other way, so I'm just gonna try online dating." How do we get over that?

Why online dating is so addictive

My return to dating websites this week has been like getting reacquainted with a crack habit. That familiar warm, fuzzy feeling came flooding back as I perused the legions of smiling thumbnails, luring me back into their lonely world with hot promises of everlasting love.

After a recent period of cold turkey from online dating, I was apparently rehabilitated. I had no cravings, no regrets. But now that I'm back online, chatting to a brunette from Dulwich calling herself "Sandy80", that's all gone out of the window and I'm wondering why I ever left. I've got the buzz again. And it has brought with it waves of clarity. I've suddenly worked out why online dating is so addictive
One of my long-standing issues with these sites is the amount of ugly people on them. I'd estimate the proportion of monsters at roughly 85 per cent. Very often a message will pop into your inbox, prompting a jolt of excitement, and then you'll see the sender's face and be disappointed. It stands to reason that this will happen, because the unattractive are more likely to be unattached.
But I've now realised this doesn't matter. If there are 1,000 girls online and 850 of them are butters, there are still 150 left, which is an enormous amount to choose from.
Invariably, most of these will also be culled for various reasons: poor spelling, inconvenient height, flabby arms, racist views. But as these undesirables are weeded out, you'll gradually form a fairly promising shortlist. Like X Factor finalists, they have passed numerous cruel auditions and beat off huge competition. So by definition, those that remain will be close to perfection - and it's much easier to attain perfection on paper.
That is why online dating is so addictive.

Online dating scams break hearts, empty wallets: expert

The trauma caused by online dating scams is worse than any other, because the victims experienced ‘double hit’ – loss of money and loss of ‘romantic relationship hit’ – says an expert.
Professor Monica Whitty, of the University of Leicester, also revealed that online dating scammers groom their victims by developing ‘hyper-personal’ relationships.
Professor Whitty’s study focused on fraud where criminals set up fake identities using stolen photographs (often of models or army officers) and pretend to develop a romantic relationship with their victim.
This is often done using online dating sites and social networking sites. At some point during the relationship they pretend to be in urgent need of money and ask for help. Many victims have been persuaded to part with large sums of money before their suspicions are aroused.
To find out what techniques scammers use 15 victims were interviewed (11 women; four men).
Professor Whitty asked them about their relationship history; what psychological state they were in before the scam; the full description of the scam; why they believe they were persuaded to part with money (if they did); details of what happened after the scam (eg how police dealt with it); how they were psychologically affected by the scam; and what their current state is.
The results showed that basic marketing techniques were used to groom victims, increasing the feelings of a genuine relationship and leaving victims susceptible to fraud.
“Our data suggests that the numbers of British victims of this relatively new crime is much higher than reported incidents show. It also confirms law enforcement suspicions that this is an underreported crime, and thus more serious than first thought,” said Professor Whitty.

“This is a concern not solely because people are losing large sums of money to these criminals, but also because of the psychological impact experienced by victims of this crime. It is our view that the trauma caused by this scam is worse than any other, because of the ‘double hit’ experienced by the victims – loss of money and loss of ‘romantic relationship,’” she noted.
Elsewhere in the study Dr Tom Buchanan (University of Westminster) looked at the psychological characteristics of victims. Over 1000 participants answered an online questionnaire.
The responses showed that people with strong romantic beliefs, who idealised romantic partners were most likely to fall prey to online scammers.
Professor Whitty presented her finding at the British Psychological Society Annual Conference on 19 April, held at the Grand Connaught Rooms, London

Dating Services

The concept of dating services is nothing new; it has a history of its own. Dating services have been of different varieties: initial, there’s the community dating service; second, the video dating service; third, the tv dating game; and fourth, the online dating service.

The community dating services make use of newspapers and community newsletters for posting their advertisements. This is able to need that the shoppers move to their workplace to avail themselves of the service. Such ads, being short, give just the fundamental information concerning the client. Though such services have the advantage that they guarantee the matching of various profiles, their biggest disadvantage is that they do not reach very far. Their services stay limited to the circulation of the paper. Also, their matchmaking services can’t be considered terribly helpful as a result of of the inadequate info in the profiles.

An offshoot of the community newsletter media, the video dating service involves users making a short personal video for the purpose of presenting themselves to prospective mates. Along with giving info about themselves, the video covers their expectations concerning the person they wish to meet. The match seekers turn out the video on their own or use the agencys office for shooting their footage. The videos are placed in a very library, that allows the users to determine them thus that they will try their potential mates.

The tv dating game became quite well-liked throughout the 1990s. It primarily involves one person, who is that the searcher (male or female), and 3 folks of the opposite sex, who are the aspirants. The aspirants should strive to answer, as candidly and honestly as doable, a group of questions which the searcher has ready. The searcher makes the choice based mostly on how well the potential mate answered. The catch of this game is that, sometimes, neither party is aware of what the opposite person appearance like, as they are separated by a curtain or a cover.

Of course, the most recent in the road appears to be online dating service, which could be a combination of all the 3 mentioned above. A comparatively a lot of informative profile can be posted, complete with photo. It’s conjointly potential to upload videos that show the searchers at their best.

Advice on Speed Dating

by HowardGr

Speed dating is turning into increasingly popular these days. It is a method of finding dates quickly by getting introduced to a variety of perspective partners and then deciding which one was the foremost compatible match. It will be a heap of fun, particularly if the club organizing the event focuses on speed dating, but before going for your initial speed dating event, you must take into account some tips which will come handy once you’re there.
Appearance counts a ton in speed dating, since you’ve got solely limited time obtainable to induce to know a person. Make certain you are wanting enticing and at an ease with yourself. Be confident and never let negative feelings overcome your cheerful nature. 1st impressions are terribly vital in speed dating.
Funniness is also terribly essential in any kind of dating. Bring some laughter to the date.
Strive to create some funny remarks and see your date’s reaction to them. If they don’t respond with pleasure they probably did not like your jokes at all. If humor is vital to you then move on, this person isn’t right for you.
People sometimes attempt too hard to impress the opposite person. This kind of behavior can solely tell them that you’re desperately attempting to land a date. Don’t tell them straight ahead that how nice you think that they are. Let things flow in a natural manner and look ahead to an acceptable moment to reveal your feelings. Be yourself. Don’t attempt to imitate a star or a star by repeating some standard dialogues. Keep in mind that the biggest mistake you’d ever make on a 1st date is lying to your partner. Be honest concerning everything. If you deliberately attempt to boost your status by introducing some little lies, it’s solely visiting earn you negative points right away and embarrassment in future.
Be positive and practical.
Don’t offer up even if you weren’t happy with the partners you’ve got had so far. Try to appear at the bright side. There can be a lot of and higher chances than just landing a date that can not determine properly.
If speed dating has been organized by some on-line dating service, then do not take into account your initial meeting a date. This is often a meeting to assess you partner to decide if you the 2 of you click. If things do not turn out the way you’ve got planned, do not think that you are currently bound to create it successful. Assume about your priorities and wants and before creating a decision take into account your choices carefully.
Finally, remember that speed dating is supposed to be fun. So do not try to create it look like as if you’re meeting your boss. Attempt to act as relaxed as you can and provide your partner an equal likelihood of obtaining to grasp your habits and your true self. Do not decide them quickly. Take sometime to ponder over the short time the 2 of you spent along and then decide.

Virtual Dating

Virtual dating is a fairly new concept that is just starting to become known in the internet and dating world. To understand the concept of virtual dating, think about a three dimensional experience or event in real life happening right before your eyes. Any environment can initiate a virtual dating experience and it can create a wide range of different atmospheres and situations.
There are some sites on the internet that are running trials of how to pick up women the virtual dating concept right now. Reports from their trials have shown that women are producing higher amounts of registration with virtual dating sites then men. Men are normally initiating contact and registration with traditional online dating sites. With virtual dating however, women are initiating more than men.
This could be due to the fact that women have complete control over who they select and how they go about interacting with people. This can lead to a much higher rate of success in real life dating situations.
Virtual dating has recently been hailed as the next major online dating craze for singles by the scientific research. It is projected to bring virtual dating into internet cafes and lounges which will give singles the power to choose to discontinue a date or to continue on with it. This virtual dating experience can help singles get to know each other in a safe, fun online internet world before setting out on real life dates. Singles interact with each other and get to know others while listening to music, playing games that engage them in conversations, and various other interactions such as spending time together with three dimensional avatars.
For many people, this sounds like a very fun way to meet new people and spend time getting to know others.
One of the biggest reasons that virtual dating was established was to encourage more and more women to get involved. according to information provided by Matt Fuller, who is an online dating expert, women are tired and extremely frustrated with the experiences that they are offered in the current online dating services that are available to them. “Females are fed up with being flooded with numerous emails from various guys.” When women open up their email inboxes to find hundreds of junk emails, most of these professional women are entirely too busy to sit and sort through all the junk to find the few relevant emails that are worth their time and effort to read. This is especially true if it is a daily, consistent problem.
Virtual dating is very friendly to women and is a product that offers all of the features that women are looking for, but are unable to find in traditional online dating sites. Recent studies centered on new virtual dating sites and software shows that it assists in better disclosure and offers the chance for more opportunities for mutual attraction to be created and continue to develop. The study also found that females were over 40% more likely to ask men to go on virtual dates then they were via chat rooms, instant messaging services, or email. They were also three times as likely to answer and agree to invitations to go on virtual dates as opposed to directly dating in the real life world.
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Matchmaking Services: How to avoid a rip-off

Are you experiencing trouble with finding that perfect partner? Are you too busy with your career to go out on dates? Is your boss throwing a party and asks for you to bring a date along? Would you prefer seeking a relationship in complete discretion, something which Online Dating sites simply don’t offer? Do you need Professional help? If so, perhaps you should consider a Professional Matchmaking Service.

You may not have the time to meet new people. And as for online dating, there are so many sites that are flooded with fraudsters, fake profiles and people who are simply not prepared to make a commitment.

If you are amongst the many who are unfamiliar with the term, a Professional Matchmaking Service is a complete reverse of ordinary and Online Dating. Instead of choosing a suitable partner on your own, you are “matched” with a variety of possible partners by your “matchmaker” who does so based your profile which is created during an actual interview. This may sound a bit daunting, but a matchmaker may actually be the perfect solution for finding a suitable partner. Many matchmakers (if they are legit) have years of experience in dealing with relationships and are almost guaranteed to pair you up with someone who has potential for a true and loving relationship.

If you are willing to go through this process, find a Professional Matchmaking Service and have enough money to actually pay for the service (most are quite pricey), then you could be well on your way to meeting your perfect match. If you are ready to take the first step to happiness the help of a Matchmaker, then you best read on, as we’ve covered some of the most crucial tips that you’ll need to avoid getting ripped off.

1. Ask around

If you are lucky enough to be recommended to a Matchmaking Agency, then your chances of finding a partner will be a so much easier, because one of the hardest parts of the process is actually finding a reputable company. If you haven’t been recommended to any yet, simply ask a family member or friend. You may also around on a few online forums if you’d prefer. Trust me; it’s a lot better to choose a Matchmaking agency that people have actually had experience with.

2. Pay a few visits

Try and visit a few Matchmaking Agencies that you think may be the right choices for you. See if there are any other clients wondering about. If you don’t like what you see, simply walk away and visit the next one. Who knows, it may just be what you’re looking for.

3. Be alert

If you have made up your mind and are considering signing up at a Matchmaking Agency, always remember to read the full payment terms and understand exactly what you are paying for and how much. Ask the consultant about previous clients as well as things like their success rate and customer testimonials.



4. The Matchmaking Process

Try and schedule a preliminary meeting and be sure to ask your matchmaker exactly what the process entails; ask questions about how profiles are made, on what criteria people are matched and the length of the actual process. Ask as much questions as you can, even if they don’t make much sense! It’s only going to benefit you in the end.

Hopefully, at the end of the meeting you will have gotten a taste of the level of service that your agency will be providing you with and how they will go about doing so. If you believe that you have found an honest, reputable and capable Matchmaking Agency, give yourself a round of applause, as this could be the beginning of great things for you.

Meeting Someone For the First Time From a Dating Website

Meeting someone for the first time from a dating website is always an exciting time. However, if you are planning on meeting someone soon, there are a few things you should consider first. How long have you been in email contact with that person for? Usually it's best practice to familiarise yourself with them first by sending and receiving emails several times.

OK, so you have suggested to meet up. Choose a place that is quiet. I often recommend to meet in a coffee shop or a diner over a bar or pub so you can hear them OK. The conversation flow is the most important here. Make sure you dress neatly and comfortably but not formally if you don't feel that would be best. Make sure you pay attention to your hair and hygiene. Looking your best will always project a good impression. Just relax and be yourself and think ahead of time what you should ask:

1) Where did you go to school? Do you still keep in contact with any of your class mates?

2) Do you have any brothers or sisters? How old are they, and do they live nearby?

3) What food do you like? What drinks do you like and are there any similarities? Perhaps you like to cook? That is always a talent and is worth mentioning.

4) What sports, recreation or hobbies do you enjoy? See if there are commonalities. Finding a common interest can often spark great conversation.

And remember, it has often been said that you can sum up a person's general character in the first 10 seconds. Not to judge a book by its cover, but after the first 10 minutes you will nearly know whether or not this person is suitable for you or not. First impressions are so important, but remember, you want to give a real impression of who you are. You shouldn't aim to impress. And guys, I know offering to buy the girl a coffee is nice, but really you want to be able to read them. Don't give too much. I wouldn't suggest bringing flowers or chocolates this time until you get to know them.

Meeting someone for the first time is always exciting. Just remember these points and you should be on your way to success in meeting others.

Julian Robinson is the website developer and marketer for Zone54, a new Australian online dating site aimed at providing single young Australians with much improved value for money and more flexible contact options in meeting other singles online. It is Julian's aim to deliver a steady stream of quality singles genuinely interested in meeting other singles at Zone54. After realising the need to provide a meeting place that is a fresh change from bars and pubs and caters to people with busier lives, it is Julian's strive to provide the most useful resource for meeting others online. This is intended to be done in the most natural and exciting way. This is what makes Zone54 the better place to connect for single Australians looking for friendships, soul mates, romance, love or more.

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EliteMate.com

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Online Dating Safety Tips

Online dating is the best possible way to meet fantastic people who share your interests and passions. Every year, tens of thousands of people get married as a result of meeting on an online dating service. Millions of people are doing it and, in general, online dating is regarded as a safe medium for meeting potential dates.



Your online dating safety begins with educating yourself on how to improve your experience and be safe doing it. Below you will find 10 tips to being safe during your online dating experience.

Ten Essential Online Dating Safety Tips

1. Trust Your Gut Instinct
Your instinct is a powerful medium for knowing when something doesn't feel right. It is also a great way to measure when to move forward with someone and when to turn and run. As you read profiles, responses to emails, have phone conversations, and meet in person your instincts help tell you if something is "right" or if something is out of alignment. The "out of alignment" message is your cue to be careful, back off, or proceed with extreme caution. Trust your gut instinct, it's the most powerful psychological tool you have at your disposal.

2. Don't Provide Personal Information Too Soon
Your home phone number and full name provide easy ways to track who you are and where you live. Armed with just your home phone number, a person can easily gain access to your income information, home address, and even learn the value of your home. Armed with your first and last name, a person can do searches to determine quite a bit of information on you - where you work, what you do, and even what your home phone number is. So in the initial stages of communication, guard your personal information. As far as phone communication, see the next tip.

3. Use a Free Email Account
If you decide to move your communication from the anonymous email feature provided by the majority of online dating services then provide an email address that isn't your regular one. Sign up for a free Yahoo!, Hotmail, or Gmail account that you use just for online dating. Don't put your full name in the From field - only your first name or something else. This protects you from a person being able to search your normal email address to find out more information about you.

4. Use a Cell Phone or Anonymous Phone Service to Chat
When it's time to move your communication to the next level (talking on the phone), never give out your home phone number. Either provide a cell phone number, use Skype to communicate, or use an anonymous phone service. It's just an added protection barrier until you get to know the person better.

5. Beware of Married People
It's unfortunate, but a lot of married people do use online dating services. They'll even go as far as to meet people. A few years ago, MSNBC reported that a study found that up to 30% of people using online dating services are married! To help you in determining whether a person is married or not, read the Online Dating Magazine article, "Staying Clear of Married Men".

6. Look for Questionable Characteristics in Your Communication
As you chat via email and on the phone you may be able to start to pick out characteristics of the other person. Are they controlling? Do they seem to anger easily? Do they avoid some of your questions? These can be questionable characteristics that tell you it's time to move on.

7. Ask for a Recent Photo
There's nothing wrong in asking someone if their photos are recent. If they don't have a photo, request a recent one. It's important for you to get a good look at the person you may eventually meet. Plus your instincts from your communications and their photos may provide you with valuable insight into the person. Plus, if they tell you the photo is recent and you meet and see a major difference, then you'll know the person lied and can cut the date short. If a person lies about their photo or profile then that is a red flag to no longer pursue the relationship.

8. Stick With Paid Online Dating Services
Free online dating services provide a greater opportunity for potentially dangerous individuals. They don't ever have to provide a credit card or other information that identifies them. There is some truth to the saying, "you get what you pay for".

9. Don't Get a False Sense of Security
Some online dating services claim to offer "background checks" and when signing up for such a service you may find it easier to let your guard down. Don't. Laws differ from state-to-state when it comes to background checks and there are even several states where checks can't be effectively performed. Because of the inconsistency, criminals/wrong doers can and do get into services that do "background checks". Never let your guard down.

10. Meet in a Public Place for Your First Meeting
When it's time to schedule that first exciting face-to-face meeting, arrange to meet in a public place and provide your own transportation. Your initial meeting will tell you a lot about the other person, including whether or not he/she lied in their profile. Your gut instincts will kick in. Never accept an offer to be picked up at your house. Make sure that a friend knows where you are at and who you are with.

By following these tips, you'll help protect yourself from being an easy prey to someone who may have ulterior motives. With an average of 100+ marriages a day from online dating, you can see that the experience can be both safe and rewarding. Keep it safe!

Top 4 Fun Date Ideas

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When you are out dating the main aspect is to have fun. It is therefore advised to look at fun date ideas that will ensure that you learn on what you and your date’s personality are like so as to come to the overall realization of a great time to be at.
1.       Candle Light Dinner

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The first idea that you can opt to use is to go the classic way and go for a candle lit date. This will be a great method to enjoy your date as it is quite unique and thus memorable to your date. You can opt to use this idea especially if you have noticed that your date is a person who is into the modern aspects of life to come to the overall experience of a truly rewarding method.

2.       Walk Date

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Another of the fun date ideas that you can opt to incorporate is the use of a walk on your date. This is a great method as it will ensure that you can enjoy on the marvels of nature, even when you are on a low budget. It is however recommended that you ought to take time in deciding on the best place to take this walk. Choose on a place that will not be very busy and that will have some great sights and activities that you can do while together.

3.       Activity Date

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Another great date idea that you can opt to implement is the use of an activity that you both enjoy undertaking and use this as a date as you can go learning on each other as you undertake on this activity. Some of the suggested methods that you can choose include biking, hiking or even boat riding.

4.       Dance Date

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If you both love dancing, why not make it a date where you will go out dancing as a date? This will ensure that you have fun during your date. Just ensure that you do not go to a place where the music is too loud that you cannot hear each other when talking.
Through use of any of the above fun date ideas, you are assured of having fun and a memorable time that will be etched in your mind for a long time to come.

How To Date a Women

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If you are looking to date a woman, it is important that you learn o how to go about this so that you can come to the overall value of doing this. This is a great method to incorporate, one where you will come to the overall experience of learning how to appeal to a woman and thus get that most coveted date that you have been wishing for.
The first thing that you need to know when dating a woman is that you need to stand out as different from the other men. To reach this, evaluate yourself and look at what it is that you can do so that you seem way attractive than other men. You need to understand that in the same way that you see the woman that you would desire to date attractive, so should she view you as the most handsome. This therefore needs you to stand out through hitting the gym, looking great at all times.
Grooming is very is very important to women and in particular those that you would like to date, as you see them being way above others. These women are way above others when it comes to grooming themselves and it is therefore important to ensure that you do incorporate the best when you are looking in to charming the most beautiful. Ensure that you go over all your grooming more than once so that you do not miss a mark. Some of the most common areas that errors are looked at are in your shaving and your nails.
The dressing that you adorn too needs to be neat and clean, help you in appealing to the woman that you would like to date as one who upholds hygiene to the highest degree. If you do use cologne, ensure that you just do a little of it. It is very common for people to overdo he cologne and this ruins the entire experience.
It is also a great idea that you ensure that you bring all your confidence with you when you come to dating a woman. Confidence is a great thing that each and every woman looks at to ensure that they do accept an invitation to a date. It is therefore crucial to ensure that you do come to the overall realization of a great method that you can come to use. Do ensure that you learn on how to date a woman from the above outlined points. Through this, you are guaranteed to attract all the ladies that you have ever wished of coming to meet

Two Amazing Secrets to Get Dates

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It is important that you learn on the small details to get date that you would desire to have. Through this, you will come to experience a truly great method of doing this and one that will make you an expert in sourcing dates. It is therefore advisable that you do take time when you are looking to get dates so that you may come to an experience of a great method of doing this.
Secret#1 – Confidence

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The first advice that you will realize vital to get the best dates is that you always learn to be confident. This is the main reason that may cause us not to get the dates that we desire. Through learning of how to become confident, then a lot of those dates that we feared on approaching will be seen easy and you will gather a lot of confidence from your fear and thus conquer on this previously feared point.
You can also start off through online dating where you meet new people and learn on the art of starting out a conversation and you can use the format that will work best for you. Through use of an online dating platform, you will avoid these weird situations of not knowing on what to say especially when you have worked so hard to get a potential date.
Secret#2 – Attention

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Another thing that you will learn if you are looking to gather the attention of a lady and come to eventually date is that you should not give too much attention. This might sound weird but the more attention that you give to a lady, the harder you make them accept going for a date with you. Through giving just a little attention to them and then stepping back, you will make the lady start thinking of what more there is to you and thus easier to accept to go out on a date with you. On the contrary, giving too much attention makes the lady know most of the things about you and thus dating you stops being fun as they already know you. Ensure that you do practice talking for just the required amount of time to come to the overall realization of a lady to be constantly thinking about you, especially if you did have a great time with her.
Finally you need to learn that for you to get date that you desire, this procedure takes time to learn and master. You should therefore not be worried if you happen to fail a few times as this is bound to happen. All that you should target to look at is becoming better and better and with time, you will be the best.